My name is PianoHands and I am new to this forum today. I have wanted to start a discussion on something, but I am not sure of exactly where to post it, or if the post would just be removed. It may not even be appropriate for this site. Please know that my intentions are not to offend. But, I was wondering if anyone on here has a tough time with their marriage due to getting into Playstation Home, and if so, why does this social network seem to take precedence at times over real human beings that are in a person's actual physical midst? Is it just the 'fantasy' of getting away from 'real life,' or ???? I'm not writing this to be ugly or ruffle any feathers at all. Just curious if anyone has had experiences with this. I am just "so" wondering others takes on this. -PianoHands. P.S. To the admins, if I should not have posted something like this, I apologize. Please personally write and let me know I was out of subject/line and I promise to not post anything of the such again. Thank you!
No, I think you are fine with your posting and the subject. I have HOME friends that is couple and they come online into HOME on their own accord and they still in love with each other. Some married couple might find it "back stabbing" on their marriage life to seek out someone online, but in the end of the day, its just a communication tool which you engaging in a social conversation and gather friends to be on your buddy list and play games together. What is most important in a marriage life is to stick and support each other and love each other. I know for a fact there is marriage couple uses Second Life as well, but its how you look at it when you are the one that ties the knot and be truthful to your love one and your family.
Okay I just tried to respond and have no clue where the response went, lol, so if I've posted this twice I apologize! Art_of_Ronin thank you so much for responding! It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and really know what you are talking about. I really have wanted more insights on this and your post was both kind and made good points. Thank you SO much for responding! ☺ -PianoHands
I'm sure it would help a relationship if both people in the relationship spent some time in home. The fact of the matter is online games and social services like Home, Second Life and more, can put stress on a relationship especially if one of the persons involved gets addicted and as a result spends less and less meaningful time with their spouse. I know a number of couples who use home together as well as play games together. Being together in any relationship is important. There are times I load home just expecting to do some quick things like collect xp or race a dolphin and end up spending a lot more time interacting with the many friends I have there. As in real life, virtual relationships also take time. Your topic is an interesting one and I'm sure many of us who are somewhat addicted can understand that going overboard can cause problems in a real life relationship.
Hi Joanna Dark. I do agree that two people should spend time in Home together. I hope this doesn't get me kicked out of here, but I will admit that this year has been horrible on me because of Home. It sounds silly that a Playstation box can almost ruin a marriage or cause such sadness, but it is so true. My husband became obsessed with it, and he even made rules for me regarding when I could and could not be in the living room. He finally came around right before the whole PSN went down, and he admitted everything to me (online flirting, photo exchanging, etc...) and said he never wanted to go to HOME again. He called and got his account permanently banned, and we are trying to start anew. HOME had appeared at first to be a fun, neat place for me - yet I was almost fascinated with how these females behind their avatars could just flirt like it was nothing, and since they didn't know I was in HOME too, how they could just lie to the wife's "face" (avatar face of course lol) and then turn around and be sneaky. We even had one stalk us outside of home. Anyways I was just wondering how others felt. In one way I think HOME is an amazing place for people, especially those like myself who might have social anxieties or issues that cause them to be inside their homes more...but by the same token, I also think that HOME can be quite destructive. I guess it just depends on the strength, personality, and moral of the person playing - like with anything. Maybe I blame HOME or the certain several females on HOME who flirted with my husband a little too much. I am willing to admit that. My husband is the main one to blame and he even says that. I am a good wife to him and our four kids. I'm so glad he stopped the rules he made up for me because that was so so saddening. I almost even did something very drastic - that is how bad I was hurting. Well thank you for responding. Hope you are having a great day Joanna Dark. -PianoHands.
I'm married with two kids and play home. It has no affect on my married life. It might help that o have two ps3s and my wife is a gamer also. No she don't use home. I try to get her to but she's not interested.
Hi pianohands--nothing wrong with the topic at all imo. Gaming/social networks addiction can be just as destructive and powerful as any other kind of addiction. Unfortunately, most people don't willingly admit to or face their addictions easily and/or honestly before its too late to avoid the inevitable consequences. Its a common thing in the world of addiction called denial....a very strong thing in itself. You may find some similar situations and discussions here: GamerWidow.com • Index page
